I often hear women bragging about a previous ex or someone that they used to date, reappearing in their lives “begging for another chance”. Let me not even lie, I’ve previously been apart of the “you see, he has finally realised that he won’t get better than me” brigade. I mean, I’m not going to lie, it is a fact that I am a great individual and it would actually be stupid for anyone to not realise this, before I exit their lives, but that isn’t what this post is about.
A guy I used to be interested in, earlier on this year, recently decided to start communicating with me on a flirty vibe. He only started doing so, once he had realised that I was no longer interested in him. However, when I used to be interested in him, he took my interest as a weakness, and was emotionally manipulative. All of a sudden I was receiving messages about I being different and not like other women.
A few weeks ago, a young chap that I used to talk to about 6 years ago, decided to reach out to me for the millionth time over these years. He gave me the usual half- hearted “I’m sorry if YOU felt I” apology, before getting into the real reason as to why he had reached out to me. He had finally now supposedly grown up and needed a woman to MOTIVE HIM, PUSH HIM, BE THERE FOR HIM AND HELP HIM GET TO WHERE HE NEEDS TO BE. Interesting how only now that he needs a woman to make him great, I am the chosen one for the task. What about 6 years ago when I needed HIM to come correct, but HE was acting a DAMN FOOL? Now that he doesn’t just think about the now, but also thinks about the future (his own words), I must now be on his beck-and-call.
My last 2 ex’s, were guys that I’d previously dated who had done me wrong. You know the usual story, they were young and immature at the time, and wasn’t ready for a woman like me, but now they are, talk? Well, luckily for them, when they decided to make a U-turn I wasn’t the wise, clued up Wini Boansi that I am today. Oh, and you guessed right, both of them did me wrong even worse than they did the 1st time around.
The background information that I have given you in the 1st half of this post, demonstrates that in my life, men continuously coming back to me, has been a reoccurring theme. Before realising what I have now, I used to see this as an ego boost, but trust me it is not.
So my title of this post THE MANDEM’S SAFETY NET, in short, I’ve realised that this is what I am to these types of men AND SO ARE YOU. If like me, you’ve experienced men who already had a chance of being with you, but blew it, and keep trying to reappear in your life, you are their safety net. You are basically the woman that they now feel guarantees a safe haven. With you they KNOW WHAT TO EXPECT. This is obviously because you was that “good girl” that they had, got bored of or didn’t cherish and so things ended. At that time, they needed someone who they felt was EXCITING, kept them ON EDGE AND THAT WASN’T YOU. NOW THAT THEY HAVE EXPERIENCED THESE WOMEN THAT THEY THOUGHT WERE EXCITING, NOW THAT THEY HAVE HAD THEIR FUN, NOW THAT THEY KNOW THAT NOT ALL THAT GLISTENS IS GOLD, HERE THEY ARE TRYING TO HOLA AT MISS SAFETY NET Y.O.U. YOU GAURANTEE THEM STABILITY AND A FUTURE, AND ONLY NOW THAT THEY HAVE RECEIEVED PEPPER FROM THEIR DESIRED WOMEN, DO THEY NOW WANT TO BE SERIOUS WITH YOU. YOU ARE BASICALLY THEIR SECOND CHOICE.
YOU ARE A WOMAN OF SUBSTANCE, YOU ARE A WOMAN THAT PROVIDES REAL LOVE, KNOWLEDGE AND CARE, AND YOU ARE A GOD THAT WILL INSPIRE YOUR FUTURE HOUSEHOLD. DO NOT ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE ANYONES SECOND CHOICE. IF SOMEONE WAS UNABLE TO SEE YOU FOR THE ROYALTY THAT YOU ARE, FROM THE BEGINNING, KEEP ON MOVING FORWARD AND NEVER LOOK BACK.
YOUR MOTHER DID NOT RAISE YOU TO BE THE MANDEM’S SAFETY NET. GOD DID NOT CREATE YOU TO FOREVER BE SOMEONES SECOND CHOICE. THE UNIVERSE DID NOT GIVE YOU ALL OF YOUR SURROUNDINGS FOR YOU TO LIMIT YOURSELF INTO BEING A MANS SAFETY NET LET’S ALL DO BETTER.